and guys thinking girls that hit on guys are sluts and/or desperate, that's just fucking ridiculous.

greetings, earthling!so r u in dc or nyc today? i like yr new okc profile, tho the other was more creative, i like the straight up-ness of it better. it will also prob get rid of ppl who don't get it.

i keep experimenting with mine, but it seems to be ok now, cuz for the most part, i'm getting more quality humans & less dumbasses.

started dating someone i talked to there. i dunno what's going on exactly cuz like i said i don't necessarily get what everyone else seems to overstand as a given.but we've seen each other twice & he's a gentleman (what the hell are those, anyway? whuh? hey, my clothes are still on. what's that about? r u gay or something? i don't understand.) got a kiss and an asian pear at end of 2nd date & a longer hug. and we've talked since on okc. didn't know if we were just gonna b friends, which would b all rt, or more, which i was hoping. kiss told me sumthin, sort of. capricorns, apparently they don't do stuff in public & they're old skool. idk. i'm certainly not, but it's kinda cute.i just don't know what to do with that sort. scared that if we keep seeing each other, i might fall for him. bad idea. not that it'll stop me, just scare the begeezus outta me. i took a leap and intimated that it might be fun to make him dinner some time cuz his wife never cooked & i know he likes to & he's got good taste.and i'm a goddess in the kitchen, amongst other places.

who knows? most of em run, so we'll see.


sister, thx so much for your thoughtful message. re that guy, i can't speak for other men, but i am a lot like that guy...i am super shy with women. i go on dates and don't kiss girls or try to rip their clothes off. i'll tell you why -- i am friends with a lot of women and there seem to be an endless supply of guys who are super aggressive and their advances are not appreciated at all. a lot of women walk the streets of nyc and will not look guys in the eye because i guess there are so many slimeballs that will use any excuse to, in the words of a friend of mine, "shoot their mustard gas" at women, looking for any momentary letdown in defenses to touch them etc., even if the advances are completely unwelcome. i've learned that a lot of my shyness has to do with NOT WANTING TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH THOSE CREEPS.

also, i've found that a lot of women seem to like me and find me charming but really are not interested in a more intimate connection because they may be bf'ed/gf'ed up or they think i'm too weird to be associated with in that way. but they can't take their eyes off me at the bar! i also want a woman to meet me halfway...this whole me chase you and you never show me your cards thing leaves me wondering do you really dig me and if so why can't you put yourself out there? if a woman can't take a risk and come towards me as i come towards her that's not prolly someone that i'm going that far with. finally, i think we should all get over ourselves and chuck this outmoded system...why can't girls and guys just talk to each other and say i dig u, do you dig me? girls don't wait around for their bosses to give them raises, most of them ask these days. why should they wait for some guy to make a move on them? and guys thinking girls that hit on guys are sluts and/or desperate, that's just fucking ridiculous.